The dryer buzzes. The oven alarm sounds. The phone rings. One child yells “Mom, hurry. I need you. Can you help me with my homework?” And one says, “Did you remember to get my guitar for practice?” My husband asks, “Do we have any new groceries? Were you able to make the bank and post office for me today? Oh and tonight we need to work on some invoices.” Meanwhile I’m making dinner with my head swimming through writing ideas. I want to make sure I’m prepared to lead my life group and be intentional to reach out to them through the week. And it’s my weekend on the schedule to lead worship which I love, but I haven’t had time to listen or learn the new music.
Recently, that was a snapshot of my life!
I love being busy with family, and certainly I adore ministry. But those moments leave my head spinning and feeling like the walls are moving in closer. Thankfully this isn’t the norm for me. However, balance does not happen naturally for most women, does it? So how can we improve? Here are four ways that may help.
1) Meet with God– Get alone with Him every day, preferably morning. My days always run so much more smoothly when I’ve made spending time with God a priority. I notice when I seek Him first and delight myself in Him, everything else falls into place. He guards, protects, directs and opens my eyes to see Him throughout my days. Anytime I have a big decision to make, I seek His direction.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. ~Proverbs 3:5-6
2) Create priorities– Make a list of what’s most important to least important in your life. If you’re unsure of what these priorities should be, pray for God to guide you. Personally, I don’t put Jesus first in a list of priorities, He’s foundational. He’s the Rock on which all of my priorities in life are built!
3) Create boundaries– Boundaries are necessary for well-being in relationships, in our involvement in activities, and with pretty much every area in life. Try to go into situations with boundaries already set. For example when I was younger and dating, I tried to create physical boundaries up front. That way I didn’t have to wait until I was in the middle of a heated situation to try to start making decisions. Or another example is social boundaries. I allow my children to choose one extracurricular activity each. This prevents me from running myself ragged trying to be in two or three places at once.
4) Learn to say NO- Refuse to people-please, and realize just because you can do something doesn’t necessarily mean you should. I try to measure the thing I’m being asked to do with whether it lines up with God’s will and plan for my life. And I’ve found saying no often leaves room for someone else to say yes, who may be more qualified or have more time.
Living with balance makes me a better wife, mom, daughter, and friend. And quite simply, it keeps me available when God clearly says GO! I never want to be so busy that I can’t say yes to God in the moment.
I’m curious, have you ever had those chaotic moments LIKE I HAVE when you wanted to throw yourself down in the floor kicking and screaming, or crawl under a rock and hide?