Under The Cleavage

Warning!  I’m fired up!

When I heard about the teen girl (now in her twenties) who was voted “ugliest woman in the world” and plastered on YouTube, I was infuriated!!!  The video of this girl is less than 8 seconds and has over 4 million hits, probably mostly due to human curiosity.  However, some of the comments people left on this site were appalling.  Things like, “You should do yourself and everyone a favor and kill yourself!”

This shouldn’t be, but it is! 

Then there’s the airbrushed, unrealistic beauties covering billboards and store windows.  The larger than life photos of women (well girls really) wearing not much more than a handkerchief saturate our society.  Magazines covered with cleavage are plastered across every magazine rack in the world.  How are the guys in our lives, our sons and husbands in particular, expected to watch television, go to the store or walk through the mall and somehow NOT be affected by this near pornographic nonsense we call normal?  Better yet how are we as women not going to be affected by it?

Our culture has become desensitized!  And our idea of beauty is skewed.

On an average day I’m fairly content and confident with my appearance.  I figure it is what it is, and I do the best I can with what God’s given me.  But it’s difficult not to have fleeting moments of comparing ourselves when it’s in our faces in the line to buy groceries.  It’s tough not to battle thoughts of being fat, ugly, or worthless.

This shouldn’t be, but it is!

I look at the pictures of these models and think there’s a woman behind that cleavage with feelings, and no doubt, insecurities and hurts of her own.  And that girl they called ugly, my heart breaks for her.  No one, absolutely no one deserves that title!

But guess what, God sees under the cleavage into the heart.  He sees past the horrible human labels, and the ones we call ugly, He calls beautiful.  To God our sin is ugly (the judging and name-calling), but He never looks at His creation as ugly.

For the LORD does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.  1 Samuel 16:7 b

Be assured God is perfect!  He doesn’t make mistakes!  And He didn’t make a mistake when He made me,  you, the beautiful girl called ugly, or the cleavage girl whose a real person too.

 He created every individual fearfully and wonderfully, with beauty as He sees it, not as we see it. 

For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.  I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works,  And that my soul knows very well.  My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret,  And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.  Psalm 139:13-15

God doesn’t care about outward beauty.  He wants our hearts, and desires they look more like His… filled with love, compassion, patience, and kindness.   Jesus was the most beautiful person to ever walk the planet earth, because He was never tainted by sin.  Yet there was no beauty that we should desire Him.  He was despised and rejected by men.  Isaiah 53:2b-3a (emphasis mine) He understands our hurts. He knows rejection.  And He recognizes true beauty, the heart kind.

This should be, and it is!

The presence of Jesus in us makes us beautiful.  Some people seem to have Holy Spirit oozing out their pores.  They light up every room they enter, and somehow being near them is like being nearer to God.

These, regardless of outer appearance, are the beautiful inspirers and the ones we should aspire to model ourselves after.

43 thoughts on “Under The Cleavage

  1. Reality Of Christ says:

    I love how God created us. All individual and all diffirent. I wish we didn’t stuggle with such things, but in the world we live in, its almost impossible not to. But God is good. And its just breaks my heart hearing about the ugliest girl, Oh, how much pain that must bring to her. I think I’ll pray for her. Thanks for your sweet post! I loved it!

  2. fullherlife says:

    Love what you shared here… this topic saturated with self worth, value, and love is near and dear close to my heart as a woman as well! May we invite the heart of Jesus in girl! Love you, Amy 🙂

  3. Betty Cummings says:

    Beauty is within a person,God looks at the heart.I tell my Kids this alot if your beaty is inside you then it will be shown on the Outside.Everything God created is Beautiful.God made everyone the way He wanted them.So I let others know if your taliking about someone or making a Mockery out of them then your doing it to Jesus.His Word saids what you do to one of the least of these you do unto me.I Love everyone and we are to Love and Aprreciate all His Commandments.I Pray I continue walking in the Fruits of the Spirit.God Bless you my friend for your Obedience in sharing the Gospel.Family in Christ forever.

  4. Rick AlveyRick says:

    Great post Rivera! Just today I stood at the counter with my 17-year-old daughter and commented to her that I hate the check-out lines because the magazines surrounding them epitomize what is most shallow about our society. Thanks!

  5. KingdomofGodservantv4 says:

    Thanks for the wonderful post. I used to be called ugly in childhood, and I regret that I had not known about what the Bible says about us, and that I had not believed in them because I had not been taught, but I love the Song of Solomon, where whenever I am feeling not so beautiful, the Word even helps me. It is also good for those days when you stink, the Word of God says that we are perfumed with spices. I really love the Word of God and what it says about the way we look. Also when you know that God thinks of you as beautiful, you will begin to see yourself as beautiful, the way that God sees you. Of course we also need to keep our hearts clean and that’s a lifetime process. You really hit on some key issues.

  6. Rob Barkman says:

    Thank you for this very scriptural posting clearly declaring a truth that this fallen world has rejected. The real beauty in the Lord’s eyes is the inner spirit that is in submission to His will and ways. Lord bless you!

  7. Lisa Kelley says:

    LOVE this! Through my dramatic weight loss over the past 18 months, I’ve seen people look at me and treat me differently. I really should write a book. It’s been an amazing journey with God to feel more and more healthy everyday. I’ve also had the amazing opportunity to help others who are seeking the same path to freedom from the chains of food addiction and morbid obesity. But I also deal with frustration over how the world treats me now that I’m “more attractive” according to worldly standards. I certainly don’t mean that to sound arrogant. You know I’m truly very humble and only want the HOLY SPIRIT to shine through me. But the media and the world have trained our men to look outward and not inward. I was judged for being obese and now I’m judged for being fit. I’m just thankful that I have a husband who loved me when I was over 300 and who still loves me at a “normal” and healthy weight. He is a HUGE blessing in my life and there aren’t words to thank him for love me for ME! I thank God for the gift of him everyday.

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      Lisa, Thank you for sharing! I knew you before and after weight loss and always thought you were beautiful:) If I recall correctly, my first words to you were something about how pretty I thought you were;) But I totally get what you’re saying! And you SHOULD write a book! I would absolutely read it;)

      I knew you before and after your husband too! I think I helped you pray for him;) You’ve been blessed with a good man my friend:) We are blessed girls!!!

  8. See In 3-D Image & Design, Inc. says:

    Jimmy Proulx is one of my new heros. Why can’t we have more men willing to be like that? Such pressure is placed on women to be “perfect”. It is so sad to see so many of us destroy ourselves in the name of beauty. I want to be loved for who I am on the inside, not who I am on the outside. We fade away externally but are still the same, internally. I am so blessed to have a man that thinks the same as Jimmy, who can look beyond the skin and love me for who I am on the inside.

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      Yes, D! I’m thankful to have a man like that too!! One who loves me for me. I’m thankful God loves us all that way:)

  9. Traci Willis says:

    Wow Rivera! So well worded to bring a very powerful message that is much needed in today’s world. I agree that this topic is one that needs to be shared with girls near and far.

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      Thank you Traci! I wish all people walking the planet could get this message embedded in their hearts! 🙂

  10. Sara Carney says:

    “Red yellow black and white, they are precious in His site, Jesus loves the little children of the world”. It doesn’t matter your ethnic background, your appearance or your social status. God just wants all of you…your heart! He wants us to love and show compassion. Not tear down and mis use the gift of words. Love you Rivera!

  11. Cammie Wilson says:

    Rivera, you seriously need to take this message not only to young girls, but to many women who have, for years, been paralyzed and held captive by the bondages of comparsion and low self-esteem; those who have believed the lies that the enemy has told them through others, or through their own self-demoralizing thoughts. This is a message of truth and inspiration “for such a time as this.” You go, girl!

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      Cammie, THANK YOU! You are such a cheerleader and inspiration to so many. It’s my heart to speak truth and inspire women (really girls of ALL ages) 😉 I love seeing them realize who they are and Whose they are, and then spread their wings to fly! 🙂 Your words bless!

    2. Caroline McGinnis says:

      I totally agree with Cammie. Rivera you need to take this study further. Take it to older women not just young girls. You clearly have alot to say on the subject that needs to be shared. I have enjoyed you thought and heart on this subject along with all of the replys and I agree with them all. Love you my friend and keep going with your heart so full and devoted to GOD and His teachings.

      1. Rivera Douthit says:

        Thank you so much for your encouraging words sweet friend! You bless! I will go through any door opened by God to speak (or write) His truth, for sure!

  12. Mary hempen says:

    Rivera,
    Great post. i believe God will use you to touch young girls . This is a crucial message these days that public schools could feature and you are perfect for the job:)

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      YOU are too sweet Mary! Thank you. We’ll see what doors God opens. If He says go, you KNOW I’m on it;)

  13. Veronica McMahon says:

    As always, a wonderful message!! Thank you for your time you put into this!! I am NOT one who likes to read, BUT I always am excited to see my email come that there is a new post. WONDERFUL Message. I vote we get you to go speak this message in the schools. This is where MOST of this cruelty starts :/

  14. Jimmy Proulx says:

    It is sad to know that we as a people have not matured past judging somebody based solely on their appearance. I also agree with you about our culture being desensitized to seeing women bare cleavage as if this is expected of them. This is one of the main reasons my family got rid of cable. It was difficult watching a show and commercials where this was being pushed in front of you. I do use self checkout when I can and look away from the magazines in the other checkout lanes. I may not be able to stop what is in a store but I am responsible for what comes into my house as the spiritual leader of my home.

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      That’s awesome Jimmy, and this world needs more men to be the spiritual leaders in their homes. 🙂

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