Songs, Sushi, and Sharing: A Father’s Day Your Husband Will Never Forget

Every year he gets the same old thing for Father’s Day:  a new shirt– no new ties, because he doesn’t wear them–cologne, or tools.

If he really wants something monetary, he typically gets it…eventually.  So if he has everything, what in the world do I give him?  What’s a girl to do?  I guess I could opt to do nothing, but that wouldn’t be fun especially since I love giving.

If you’re with me here, we could go for the traditional golf clubs, fishing gear, or DVD’s of unwatched seasons of their latest favorite series on Discovery.  OR, we could do a few simple things with longer lasting effects.

After–ahem– a few years of marriage, I’ve discovered five gifts we can give our men on Father’s Day (or any day).   These are sure hits and the greatest part?  They don’t take a lot of money, just a little consideration.

 

1)  Intimacy – (Into Me You See)-  Most people think of physical closeness or sex when they think of intimacy.  And true, in every well-balanced successful marriage, sex is vital.  But letting them in to see is key to keeping them satisfied:  emotions, passions, fears, desires, and yes, even our newest lingerie!

(Paul is speaking to husbands and wives).  “Do not deprive one another (sexually) except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”  -1 Corinthians 7:5

 

2)  Recognition – Most men love to have their egos boosted a little.  But more than anything they love to be loved and recognized by their wives (even children) for all their hard work and provision for the family.  Just a little “Wow honey, you did an amazing job on the yard!  It looks great!” sends them soaring and plants a smile on their faces.

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”  -1 Thessalonians 5:11

 

3)  Quality time –   Most men love date nights:  playful, laughter-filled evenings of favorite songs, sushi, and sharing desserts.   An occasional few hours of giddy– or even serious– adult conversations away from our children are healthy in every marriage.

“A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”  Proverbs 17:22

 

4)  Chill time –  Give them their space.  Let them zone out, relax, plan, and regroup (or pray) in that beloved space:  home office, man cave or whatever they like to call it.

“And when He (Jesus) had sent the multitudes away, He went up on the mountain by Himself to pray. Now when evening came, He was alone there.”  Matthew 14:23

 

5)  Friendship –  Delight in them by sharing, considering, listening, and encouraging them.

“Ointment and perfume delight the heart, And the sweetness of a man’s friend gives delight by hearty counsel.”  Proverbs 27:9

 

 

6 thoughts on “Songs, Sushi, and Sharing: A Father’s Day Your Husband Will Never Forget

  1. Leah says:

    Rivera, I loved your post today. With the craziness of life, I almost forgot that Father’s Day is this weekend. Thanks for reminding me of what my man wants most of all this year!

  2. Mary Hempen says:

    Rivera,
    I love the way you simplified this for all of us reading your blogs. As you know I have been married 42 years. If I had followed these very simple 5 things our early marriage would have been as great as the last 25. Not perfect but great. I’m lucky….Flannel Shirt is sooo easy to love!!

  3. RebeccaAarup says:

    This hits home after what Chris went through on Monday. I’ve been deeply convicted on some of these issues, and grateful God revealed them! However, I would rather He do it in a way that doesn’t involve injuries to my husband! So grateful God gives us umpteen chances to get it right!

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