Believe it or not I was once a teenage girl. I survived! So from a been-there-and-got-the-T-shirt perspective, I want to let you in on a few secrets.
Attention can’t substitute true love. Wearing a shirt with song lyrics on it like “I’m Sexy and I Know It- LMFAO” is NOT– may I repeat this IS NOT– sexy! This screams your view of sexy is skewed, and you’re insecure and attention seeking.
Dating is for marriage, not for sport. Be friends first. Decide through friendship if this is potentially someone you want to spend your life with, then date. (I wouldn’t recommend getting into a serious relationship before college, but that’s another post for another day).
Trying people on for size is not necessary to know which guy is a “fit” for marriage…sexually or in any other way. God has your guy chosen already. He’s a perfect fit for you by Divine design. Pursue God first, then He’ll show you whose right for you.
Purity is not just about virginity, it’s about character. [It] isn’t just about whether or not you’ve had sexual intercourse, though that’s a huge part of it. Being a tease or sexting a guy can be just as impure as going all the way. Why? Because purity is a matter of what’s in the mind and heart as well as how you treat your body. And be sure, saving yourself for your husband will save you a lot of heartache.
Modest IS hottest! Leave room for the imagination. Don’t give it all away right away. Hold out for marriage. They’re called privates for a reason, so keep them private. Walking around with stringy tops, cleavage hanging out, and unzipped short shorts will get attention! But I can promise it will be the wrong kind of attention.
You don’t owe him. When you go on a date with a guy (even if he pays for everything), that does not entitle him to anything. You owe him nothing but a “thank you” and “good night.”
Look for a guy who respects you and your boundaries, who respects himself and has control enough to wait sexually, AND who loves God.
If you feel like you’ve blown it in the purity department, it doesn’t mean you can never be pure again. Purity comes from God. So ask Him to forgive you and move forward. Don’t return to it, and in God’s eyes you are as pure as if it never happened. That’s not to say premarital sex won’t come with some consequences. But that is to say, God forgives and forgets if you ask Him and move forward. God doesn’t expect you to live in guilt for the rest of your life.
With every choice there’s a consequence. All the baggage you create by the choices you make will go with you into your future. Think first, make choices carefully.
Bad company corrupts good character. So choose your friends wisely, and ask God to guide you in the process.
Beauty is not defined by physical appearance, though it’s totally okay to dress cute and feel good about the way you look. Godly character makes you beautiful. Instead of worrying about whether you’re wearing designer clothes, worry about whether you’re dressed in the ultimate Designer’s clothes…love, purity, honesty, kindness, joy, peace, patience, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control… and I’m sure there are others. God’s duds are so much better than the world’s.
You’re worth is not defined by a boy, or how many girlfriends you have, or how popular you are! God decides your worth, and He says you are so worthy He chose to give up His Son, Jesus, for you!
You are treasured by God. He loves you no matter what. He doesn’t make mistakes, and He created you beautifully. Believe it, embrace it and live like it!
YOU are beautiful!