Be A Lady!

gentlman I was such a tomboy!  I was the only grand-daughter in the midst of a ton of boys.  So, as would be expected, I played like the boys played.  I climbed trees.  I built clubhouses.  My cousin, Kevin, and I were sure we were the Boxcar Children.  We loved that book and loved pretending.  We wore calluses on our bare feet playing cowboys and Indians in the summer, and once we learned how, we nearly rode the wheels off our bikes.


Believe it or not, I remember really hating dresses.  The only thing that excited me about wearing a dress was the thought of finally getting to shave my legs.  Mom made me balance a book on my head, because she wanted me to learn to walk like a girl, poised and proper.

I’m not so sure how poised I am, but admittedly, I love accessories and girlie things now.  I’m still not so in love with dresses, but I like them for special occasions.

I thought it was ridiculous at the time, but now I’m so thankful my mom taught me to be lady-like!  As I got a little older, I learned to never wear out my welcome and to never be the first to call–a boy of course.

The marks of a lady were using good manners, waiting on the guy to do the calling, and allowing him to open the door.

Did you know God is the perfect Gentleman, and He wants us to be the ladies He created us to be?

Like most guys, He doesn’t need us telling Him what to do, or how to do it. He already has a plan.  The difference in God and our earthly guys is that His plan is perfect.  It needs no modifications, just trust and obedience.

Let God do the calling.

He designs each of our lives with a unique purpose.  Yours may look different from mine, and that’s ok.  Instead of desiring someone else’s life, abilities or calling, God wants us to enjoy the individual plans He has for us.

I think of when Jesus told Peter how he (Peter) would eventually die.  Peter immediately asked Jesus about John, “What about him?”

Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you?  You must follow me.”  John 21:22

Wow!  Nothing like Him saying, “That’s really none of your business!”   You see, we humans struggle with jealousy and making comparisons.  Another person’s life, destiny, dreams, abilities, and calling are not for us to worry about.  We are to follow Jesus, moment by moment.  We are to concern ourselves with what we’ve been given, which means we should ask, what are my abilities, what is God’s plan for me, who has been entrusted to my care, and am I following God by attending to the things He’s given me?

And like most gentlemen, God wants to open the doors.

I know waiting is one of the most difficult things ever, especially in the world we live in.  We have easy access to Google, Facebook, Twitter, books, guides, experts, counselors,  and life coaches.  Although I have no problem with any of these, it can be tempting to run to these before we run to God.  We want solutions and game plans, and we want them now.  But God holds our solutions.  We should always go to Him in prayer first before pushing our way through any door!

If we feel like we know what God ultimately wants us to do with our lives, it’s so easy to get ahead of Him.  Be assured if our perfect Gentleman is calling, He’s going to open the doors.  We don’t need to push the door open!  He will provide.  He will make a way.  Like on any other date, we need to get ourselves ready while we wait.  The waiting period is often to allow us time to prepare, or allow Him time to prepare us for the calling He has for us.

Our God wants to love on us and woo us just because we are His.  His love for us is so big for us, it really can’t be put into words.  Rest in that promise.  Relax, and let God be God.  Let Him lead like the Gentleman He desires to be in your life!


6 thoughts on “Be A Lady!

  1. D says:

    Rivera, your audience is mainly young women, I think. I am a senior man.

    I exhort your audience to be ladylike. Nothing impresses a man more, at least one who is trying to be a gentleman, than ladylike behaviour. When I met my then future wife, I noticed how ladylike she was. It made me want to be on my best behaviour in turn. I was brought up to treat women with grace and courtesy. I still open doors for women and always walk closer to the traffic than any lady with whom I happen to be walking. This sometimes drives my wife nuts but it is just the natural thing for me to do. Funny thing though now that I am a senior citizen I find young women sometimes open doors for me!

    It is a very mean spirited man who does not want to respond positively to women who are ladylike.

    Now just to encourage all you young ladies. My wife and I have been married nearly 40 years and I can tell you that our marriage is much better now than it ever has been before, it just gets better and better. We loved each other on our wedding day but we love each other so much more now. We both know that God has blessed us so much.

  2. Suzanne says:

    Dear friend-
    Thank you thank you thank you for this reminder of Truth!!!!!
    Waiting is not easy!! Especially for us planners and somewhat type A personalities;) aka nurses lol! Well that’s me and many nurses I know at least…but certainly not everyone.

    I am so thankful that even though I don’t see you as frequently you continue to speak truth in my life. What a blessing!!!!!!

    You are beautifully and wonderfully made and your continual pursuit of Him is a blessing to us all. Keep teaching and speaking His truth!


  3. Mary says:

    I love the way you’ve woven the all-important messages God has given you to deliver in this entry. No doubt He will open the doors to the kingdoms He has shown you, and He’ll do it at just the right time! May God continue to bless you, lovely Lady,as you bless all of us!

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