Victoria Has No Secrets

Victoria's Secret BagMy children said, “Look mom.  Half the lights are out on that sign.”  We were on spring break in North Myrtle Beach.  Looking up to see what sign they were talking about, I was mortified.  Their attention was on a restaurant sign, but the name of the restaurant?  Dirty Dicks.

Sinking in my seat, I said, “Yep, it sure is!” The giggling that followed from the back seat let me know they actually read the sign and more than likely knew what it meant.  My husband looked at me like, is this really happening?  Are they really old enough to know the inappropriate, underlying meaning of that sign?

One of the biggest issues I have with raising my children isn’t teaching them the truth.  It’s not even living out the Word in front of them.  It’s simply protecting them.  There are so many outside factors and influences.

For years I’ve been singing them the children’s song…be careful little eyes what you see, be careful little feet where you go, be careful little ears what you hear, and hands what you do, and so on.  There’s so much truth in that little song…the Father up above is looking down in love, be careful little eyes what you see.  I’m not above reminding them of those lyrics to this day!

Our children are saturated at every turn with what the world says is normal.  But what’s ok in the world and what God says is okay are two different things.

We have restaurants with names like Hooters, Dicks, and Dirty Dicks. The fact that we as a society have reduced ourselves to selling food in association to private body parts is disgusting to me.  And why anyone would actually want to eat at any of these is beyond me.  What in the world?  People say, “I like Hooters because they have good wings.”  Really?  Really!!

It’s sad.  Sex sells.

It’s really disturbing to me that I can’t walk through the mall with my children without them being exposed to soft porn.

Victoria has given away all of her secrets, and then some.  But Victoria’s not the only one.  Half naked men and women are plastered all over the walls in the mall.  Honestly, the majority don’t notice it anymore.  We have become so desensitized to it in our culture, most people tend to brush it off and think it’s no big deal.

As I’m writing this I’m reminded of what the truth says.  God warns us that it’s a slow fade to sin.  Sin doesn’t normally just happen overnight.  It’s birthed over time.

But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.  

Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin;

and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death. 

Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren.  -James 1:14-16 

This is a bold warning.  I’m pretty sure if I’d known this several years ago, it might’ve helped keep me out of some of the trouble I found myself in.  Sin starts with a desire.  I would venture to say desire probably starts in the mind or with the eyes.  Then the desire is conceived.  A seed has been planted.  It grows and gives birth to sin.  And sin in its fullest will inevitably lead to death.

Wow.  Life hinges on obedience to the Lord.  Death hinges on disobedience.

I’m convinced the only way to avoid trouble in this life for ourselves and our children is to know this stuff and live by it.  If we don’t know what God says, how can we live it?  We have to fall in love with God’s words, hide them in our hearts, and act on them.   And whatever we do, we must ask for and proceed with Godly wisdom in raising up the next generation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach (without finding fault), and it will be given to him.  But let him ask in faith, with no doubting…  ~James 1:5-6

12 thoughts on “Victoria Has No Secrets

  1. laurabennet says:

    Yes, it’s true. We just turned off a movie about baseball that our son wanted to watch because of inappropriate language and activities. We’ve taken our daughter out of school in part because of the constant inappropriate actions of the students. It’s tough to protect them in this world. Sometimes there’s so much out there, we spend all our time discussing, praying and instructing them. Crazy, huh? Thanks for your post. It’s encouraging to know that as parents we have each other to band together. I like to think that we can raise kids in a way that will make them light in a dark world. The good thing is that the darkness pushes them to us and to the Lord! We keep using the opportunities for good!

  2. BrwnEyedGrl869 says:

    So true. What’s sad to me is the number of women at church who are wearing low cut tops & too-short skirts. Not just the teens… it’s their moms too. I’m all for dressing feminine, but my hubby’s the only one who needs to see my cleavage! 🙂

  3. Mary says:

    Rivera, I applaud you and others who are willing to stand up and speak out about these things. I am appalled at what is visible to all — on TV, in print ads, on billboards, even in advertising that fills our mailboxes. We’re more than desensitized; we’ve become blind to the impact it has on us all — especially on the youngest and most impressionable. “There ought to be a law…” but, since there likely won’t be, it’s up to those of us who understand the corrupting nature of such ads to help others (especially children) understand what is and is not acceptable to our Heavenly Father and why. The Scriptures you’ve chosen for this post say it all… Thank you for continuing to fight the good fight for a return to GOD’s morality! Love & blessings… Mary

  4. Brandi Luiz says:

    I totally agree with what you are saying we are so desensitized!! My married daughter works at VS and I co!nsistently have to tell people she is not a model, she’s a cashier. She likes their clothes but she is a modest dresser as well. We can wear pretty things as long as it is seen by our husbands and not the public.

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      Aboslutely. I agree 100% my friend. Thank you for commenting! I have “items” from VS. My husband likes to give me gift cards to shop there;) However, I wish they would just be a little more modest with their advertising and not exploit women by hanging 20×20 ft. pictures of them in skimpy underwear outside their stores:/

  5. Lyn Leahz says:

    I agree wholeheartedly! And how refreshing to know I am NOT the only one who feels this way. I have kids and they giggle about stuff I can’t believe they already know! Even my 7 year old boy! They learn it at school and at daycare. It’s awful.

    One night on New Years Eve several years ago (2007) I had my children gathered with me to watch the ball drop. A commercial came on that displayed two women having sexual relations together. My children all looked at me in shock and laughed. I was pregnant with number four and they were younger at the time. I was so angry!

    The one that blows my mind the most is football and the Superbowl. Didn’t it used to be a ‘family’ event? Now it’s nothing but half naked cheerleaders who look more like strippers in a high dollar strip club dancing around showing it all off, and nasty commercials with nothing but sex. I think this past year they showed an Israeli supermodel practically having sex with an obese guy. What??? Really??? I read about that on the internet. To be honest, I haven’t watched television in years. I get all of my knowledge from places on the net. For the most part, I can control what I see on here..depending.

    But what is sad is when my kids come home from school and tell me they saw photos ‘on accident’ of naked women on the net.

    It’s only going to get worse.

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      Thanks for stopping by to leave a comment Lyn:) I guess we need to be diligent with those parental filters for the computers. It’s so easy to “accidentally” stumble on all kinds of inappropriate pics/info on the internet:/

      1. Lyn Leahz says:

        Yes it is. The thing is, just like you were saying..you can’t always protect them. This is at school….when I can’t protect them from it. They have filters…but apparently not good enough. I did call and complain though.

        Anyhow, your post was very good and hit home…thanks for sharing, and God bless.

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