Porn Parasite

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Imagine if you will a drug addiction so lethal it has the ability to destroy everything in its path–relationships, marriages, perhaps even an entire generation’s perception of healthy sexual behavior.  The drug of choice can’t be snorted, smoked, swallowed, or shot up.  Our bodies create the drugs, all we have to do is simply look.

PORN!!

Of the approximately 1 million divorces in the United States per year, half of them are due to porn addictions.  That’s 500,000 marriages per year being destroyed by this nasty parasite!  Like any other parasite, it gets in quietly.  This time it’s port of entry is through the eyes.  One look, then another and another, and over time it wreaks havoc.  It becomes a full-blown addiction that tries to kill everything.

Porn is as addictive as any synthetic, illegal drug, yet it is legal and completely accessible.  Literally at the tips of our fingers, the majority of Americans can view pornography through internet access.  1 out of 8 web searches are for erotic content.  1 in 5 mobile phone searches are for porn.

How is it addictive?  It causes the release of the body’s chemicals dopamine, serotonin,  and epinephrine.  These cause a “feel good” response.   What starts as a “want to feel good” turns into a “need to feel good,” then to a “have to.”  These chemicals have been described to be more addictive than cocaine.

I’ve had women often admit to me their husband has a “problem” with porn which is causing difficulties in their marriage.  A common confession is these husbands no longer want to have sex with their wives.  This isn’t surprising.

Porn is not reality.  It leaves viewers with unrealistic ideas about sex.  These porn stars are young, enhanced by digital photography, and most have had plastic surgery.  Nothing about this is real.  People age, and wrinkle, and gravity begins to take over.  Reality is when women have babies, their bodies change.  They stretch in undesirable places.  They gain weight.  This is just a fact of life.   It’s the way God made us.  But unrealistic pornographic images lead to an erosion of sexual attraction to the real deal.  This leaves the spouse feeling rejected.

Porn is directly related to negative attitudes and aggression.  It also causes depression.  Did you know 88% of scenes in porn films contain acts of physical aggression, and 49% contain verbal aggression.  This is not consistent with a healthy, loving sexual relationship.

All of the above lead to a lack of trust, insecurity, and sexual dissatisfaction.  Women whose husbands have a porn problem are left feeling extremely unattractive and unwanted.  For most, it’s a violation of marital trust and as bad as an extramarital affair, because their man is becoming sexually aroused by looking at another woman.  Jesus made it pretty clear this is sin.

 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.  If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.  And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.  ~Matthew 5:27-30

I don’t think we have to literally gouge out eyes and cut off  limbs to avoid porn.  But I do think Jesus was making the point, if something is causing you to sin, get rid of it!

If you have a phone or computer, and the temptation is too great, get rid of it.  Find someone who can hold you accountable.  Put accountability filters on your computer and devices.  One great resource is called Covenant Eyes.  Also visit here for these and other stats.

Porn is like a parasite that sucks the life completely out of it’s user.  Eventually the person is lifeless like the living dead, and in the end, left wanting.

This is a real battle, a spiritual attack tearing at the fabric of our marriages and families.  It’s causing marriage casualties left and right.  We as individuals have to choose to fight by saying no, by getting rid, by taking the necessary precautions to keep our eyes and minds, and the eyes of our children, safe from this ugly addiction.

Sources:

http://www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats/

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inside-porn-addiction/201112/is-porn-really-destroying-500000-marriages-annually

http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/Get-The-Facts/

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce_and_infidelity/pornography_and_virtual_infidelity/stages_of_porn_addiction.aspx

8 thoughts on “Porn Parasite

  1. Comfortably Numb says:

    Great post -terrible reality :/ I’ve been there, lived it…felt it and you’ve explained the results really well. It’s not nice being in a situation where your loved one has a porn addiction xB

  2. Monday Morning Motivation says:

    Many industries are established around abnormal standards, ones that hurts people for profit. For example, ABCNews.com reported that pornography has grown into a ten billion dollar business, and the performers are hired as young as eighteen to have sex that is often unprotected. This is terrible on both ends, but on the viewers end it trains their sex drive to long for something that does not really exist, which leads to the addictive chase. Thanks for blogging about it. I’ve written about it in my book and speak about it often. http://amzn.to/14N8zzK

  3. Mary says:

    Those are SCARY statistics, and this is one of those “secrets” that NEEDS to be exposed! No doubt, the enemy is working overtime to take every good thing given by God and seduce us into sin. Sadly, I see more and more women — especially young women — who find themselves addicted to pornography. As you point out, it’s so easily accessible; and it seems harmless on the surface. It’s anything but that. While much of it is “free for the looking,” it may cost everything in the end. As with most addictions, it starts with one small step — followed by another and yet another — and soon one develops a habit that’s too hard to break. Simply put, pornography is a slimy, slippery slope to hell — and that’s just where Satan wants to take us. The good news is that Jesus offers a way out for those who are willing to let Him lead. His mercies know no bounds and He’ll pull us out of the deepest of ditches if we’re willing to turn toward Him. Thank you, Rivera, for hitting the “hard stuff” and always pointing to the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE! May God continue to fill you with His Words and wisdom that you might pour them out over all He would have hear!

    1. Rivera Douthit says:

      Thank you for always encouraging, Mary! And thank you for pointing out that this is not just a problem for men. This is becoming a problem for women more and more. There are no social, racial, gender, or age barriers w porn. It’s sad, and we have to educate people!

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