To Be Or Not To Be


If I’m being completely honest, I get frustrated when people say they’ll do something, then don’t do it (I’m thinking of no particular person or scenario as I write). It’s equally as frustrating to buy something expecting a quality product to soon find out how cheap it really is.  Or I don’t know about you, but I frustrate myself.  I let myself down sometimes. I’m my worst critic.

Guess what!  We don’t have to be perfect.  We can lower our expectations of ourselves and those around us. PEOPLE ARE IMPERFECT and always will be!!!  The sooner we can get a handle on this, the happier we’ll be!  It’s frustrating to have such high expectations that they’re nearly impossible to achieve–without perfection.  The only One who is perfect is Jesus.  To realize we’re not God and don’t need to be is quite a revelation for some of us.

Now is this to say it’s ok to lower standards for living or give ourselves a license to sin?  NO, not at all.  It’s just doing away with the need to be perfect or the expectation that others will be.

I realize the world says if we don’t work hard, create goals and strive to reach them, we’ll never be successful or happy.  But what if those goals are MY goals and not God’s for me?  Then ultimately those accomplishments aren’t going to satisfy.  If I’m not resting in the will of God for my life, then more than likely I won’t be content in my “successes.”

It’s easy to get eyes off of God and on people…what they think, what they do or don’t do.  Paul said he knew what it was to be content in any given situation… with or without, hungry or full.  Then he said, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”     

YES, our contentment hinges on being IN Christ.  Our successes are rooted IN Christ. Right beside Him. Listening. Going when HE says go (not when WE feel like it’s a good idea).  Waiting when HE says wait.  It’s abiding!  It’s being found in Him, in the secret place, in the routines of our days, moment by moment.

Sometimes without explanations or understanding, we’re asked to wait or go.  If it’s what He’s saying, then it’s the thing to do because HE said it.  Maybe someday we’ll understand why, maybe not!  God knows why and that’s all that matters.  Obedience can be difficult, but I admit my GREATEST joys and victories in life have come as a result of trusting and obeying God.

Jesus said, “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.” John 15:5

IN Him we can do ALL things, but APART from Him we can do NO-thing.

The LESS expectation we put on ourselves or other people, and the MORE expectation we put on the sovereignty of God, the happier, more free and content we will be.

JESUS is the Name above every name…

the God who sees, who knows, who cares, who provides, who saves, who overcomes, who is victory!

Jesus fills, makes a way, has authority over every nation,  government, king and kingdom.

He’s the same yesterday, today and forever. He still does miracles!! HE moves mountains. Calms storms and raging seas. He heals diseases and casts out demons! He sheds light in darkness.

YES!!!! It’s freeing. Trusting God is freeing. When I put my hope, my trust, my coming, my going, and my waiting in the capable hands of Jesus, ALL IS WELL!!  In that place (abiding  with Him) is where I find contentment!! Not in people, their abilities, their opinions, or their dependability (or lack thereof).

Expecting more of Jesus and less of people is freeing!!!  He’s how we live, move, and have our being!  Try letting go and let God.

Be still, and know that I’m God. I will be exalted among the nations,  I will be exalted in the earth!  Psalm 46:10

6 thoughts on “To Be Or Not To Be

  1. D says:


    I have been married almost 40 years so you would think that I know how to love my wife. I thought so too until I really READ VERY CAREFULLY Eph 5: 25-33. Then I realized that I had been loving her MY way, not God’s way. Since I have tried to live out those verses (not always successfully, as you point out, I know I am not perfect) what a difference it has made to our marriage. I now know what an amazing and wonderful woman I married, how she is the woman God chose for me. There is so much more joy in my life just caring for her and putting her needs before my own selfish desires. I feel so young when I am with her. I am so grateful that she chose me for her husband and I thank God every day for bringing her into my life. I know that if every husband tried to love his wife in accord with those verses there would be far fewer marriage breakups.

  2. Mary says:

    Well put! As a “recovering perfectionist” (among other things), I can certainly relate to being less than satisfied when I’ve chased after my OWN goals, rather than God’s. By the world’s standards, it might appear that I’m less “successful” than I was when I held a high position in a Fortune 15 company; but honestly, I’ve never been more fulfilled doing what God has prepared (and is preparing) me to do. Some might say that I’ve sacrificed a lot to do His work, but the truth is I’ve gained SO much more that satisfies my soul! Thank you, Rivera, for continuing to BE the light and SHINE the light on God’s purpose for our lives!! I love you!!

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